Do I look fat in these jeans?

Suzanne Schroeder, Curl Expert for NaturallyCurly.com, talks about honesty, when you don't want it, and when you absolutely do.

I have been wearing a hat and pigtails for 10 days now. The result of a hair color disaster. The young guy at work asked today " What is with the hats?" " You look like an aging hipster." A bad thing to say to a 42 year old woman, who really just wants to be just a hipster. The rest of the day was a debate about how honest should honest be? How do we want our questions answered like "honey do I look fat?" and "do my curls look too frizzy today?" Most of us want the perfect combination of honesty and a bit of fibbing. Something like "you look great but those jeans aren't my favorite" or "your hair looks super today except that one little curl that is misbehaving." Is there really anyone out there who can answer the questions this way all the time? The only instance when this honesty combo doesn't work is when you get it from a hair stylists. It is always in the more extreme form if you are a curly. Our hair always looks worse rather than better when we leave the salon. Even though the stylists says it looks great. We go home or to our car where our emergency hair products are and re-style the curls ourselves. I have only recently found one person who really knows how to cut, color and style curls. The problem is he is only here every 3 months. So when I on a whim decided to put blonde streaks in my red hair and they turned bright yellow I had to call someone. The whim was a huge mistake. I had done it many times as a teenager and in my twenties but this time something went really wrong. I arrived at my appointment knowing that I had a problem and was hoping anything would better than yellow. I was so wrong. The correction turned into brown curls with white strips. The honesty was there at the beginning of the appointment. We both knew the yellow was a mistake. By the end of 3 hours though that honesty had turned into the typical curly experience. Looking in the mirror horrified as the stylist tries to convince us that our hair looks great. Honesty is complicated. How much do we really want? Sitting in the chair at a salon, complete honesty would be just right.